It’s mid-February, how many of you are still working towards your New Year’s resolutions? I recently asked one of my friends if she has any New Year’s resolutions. She told me that instead of having resolutions, she has a list of things she either intends on doing more or less of depending on the if the item is viewed as good/bad for her. I was very impressed by her response.
For years, I have made a list of New Year’s resolutions. I rarely made it past the month of February with my lofty goals towards wellness. I am sure there are a lot of contributing factors to why I rarely achieved my New Year’s resolutions. Thinking of a goal I wanted to achieve was my first step, however, I don’t think I ever came up with a full plan on how I would achieve my goal. I didn’t have a solid plan which made it difficult to execute the steps because I didn’t know what the steps should be.
Fast forward to today, I, like my friend, do not make a list of resolutions. Instead, I have a running list of things that contribute to my overall wellness. My plan is to try to include a few of the things on my list in my everyday life. I choose simple things such as eating dark leafy greens and other vegetables and fruit everyday. Some days are better than others, but it’s a goal and I make an effort to execute that goal every day. Luckily, the steps to my plan are very easy. Step One: I need to make sure I buy fruits and vegetables every week. Step Two: I need to make sure I put those fruits and vegetables in my mouth everyday! Sometimes I plan dinners around this, sometimes I plan daily snacks around this.
Another goal I have is to take 10,000 steps a day. That used to be really easy before I started a new career a few weeks ago. I used to teach several fitness classes a week and this was how I knew I was going to achieve my goal on most days! Now, if I don’t achieve my step goal then my husband and I go out for a walk very late in the evening. On a few days in these past three weeks, I haven’t quite met my goal and it’s disappointing to me because it used to be so much easier to achieve. Now I have to work a little harder in order to get this done.
The path to our wellness journey appears to have a lot of forks in the road, sometimes there even appears to be hard stops or dead ends. I am with you, I completely understand and I am here to say, don’t give in to the dead end! Persevere my friends! You owe it to yourself to dig out and move on! Let me tell you, this is the first time in a very long time that I feel as though I am letting my wellness goals hibernate. I’m working 10 hour days combined with an hour commute on both sides of my work-day and I also work on the weekends too. Gone are the days where I could wake up, walk down stairs grab my coffee, and then walk down more stairs into my basement and begin my work day (full time work at home project coordinator was my previous role). Anyway, I am IN LOVE with my new career as a Director of Healthy Living, but I feel as though I need to get back to practicing what I preach. And let me be clear, my food goals are all still going strong, it’s the fitness piece that has been lacking these past couple of weeks. And for me, being physically active most days of the week is what I do to relieve stress.
My fitness journey has hit a fork in the road. As I have mentioned before, I have a great support system at home. My husband is my biggest cheerleader and support person and I am very blessed to have him on my side. Keeping this in mind, I am also his biggest cheerleader and support person. The fork in the road exists because my personal preference to get my fitness activities done early in the AM and his personal preference is to get his fitness activities done in the evening. If I switch my fitness schedule, I lose my partner and so does he. I’m sure there is a compromise here, we just have to work together to figure out what that looks like. I mention this because I believe we all have what we feel are very good reasons for putting our wellness goals “on hold”. Are you actively trying to find a solution? I know I am because it’s important to me!
“LEARN THE WISDOM OF COMPROMISE, FOR IT IS BETTER TO BEND A LITTLE THAN TO BREAK” . by Jane Wells
I challenge you to think about any new or old wellness goals. Be kind to yourself and reevaluate where you are and where you may want to go. Create goals that are achievable. Create easy steps to get to that goal. For example, if you have a general goal of weight loss, you should think about what are the things you are willing to do in order to lose weight. Then outline the steps (either on paper or in your head) on each of those items. The more specific you are with your plan will allow you to understand where you may find forks in the road or dead ends in your plan. For example, if you add “eat Kale every day” as one of the things you are going to do to contribute to weight loss, but you don’t particularly like Kale, then it may be a difficult to achieve that part of our goal. It’s all about being thoughtful and realistic. Remember to be present in your every day! Yesterday is over, you may have not been perfect, but if you gave it a go then recognize yesterday for what it was and worry about today! Be honest with yourself about how you’re doing but try to remove any negative self talk. You are a beautiful person. You got this!! Holla if you need a cheerleader!!!!
Be well my friends! I’m thinking of you as you are working towards your overall wellness!